The Choice of Attachment:
Any moment can provide us with a
positive or negative experience. Yet so often we cling to the
negative experience and then attach to a story that supports it. In actuality, what we really
desire is a positive experience and to feel appreciated and loved but when we
don't have that experience we fall into negative self-judgment and it only
reinforces the story and the cycle of suffering.
So Unfortunate..
It breaks my heart when I see
beings focus on their suffering and get stuck in the cycle of disbelief and
lose hope. On my own journey and in my own
years of practice, I have found that it is the intensity of experience that has
deep impact that often wants to be felt and honored......
But what I have also learned is...
You don't have to hold yourself in
suffering to honor the experience...
That just reinforces the story
around the wound, is not kind, and does not support the transformation into
strength and wisdom.
What has crystallized for me
is...I can attach to whatever I want to.
The story, the so-called lacking,
the discontent, the impatience....or....The LOVE , the mystery, the wonder, or the gratitude for the experience itself.
It's only when we attach to a negative experience that translates into a negative judgment of self that we
continue to perpetuate that cycle of suffering.
Our amazing and tender selves are
impeccable and eternal.
Even harsh judgment can not change
that.
Self-criticism, anger, and self
abuse require energy to sustain them.
Love is naturally self-generated
and is self-perpetuating.
It's the constant judging of self
that is the most painful, unproductive and ultimately, spiritually exhausting.
As we view both negative and
positive in any given moment, we have a choice on what we attach to. Hold on to the dissatisfaction or
nurture the potential sweetness.
In truth, It's all an illusion and
all-wondrous at the same time. We choose the movie.