Brutal Self Clarity...............Respect....

Respect is a state of conscious decisiveness....

It is not based on external conditions or desired reciprocation...

It is rooted in clarity and calm, appropriate self confidence and emotional stability...

Why ?

Because in order to receive it one first has to give it and it is given because one values the quality and virtue of another human being and it illustrates one's own personal integrity as well as, demonstrates one's appreciation for someone else...

How does this look , you say ?

It is developed by 1st, being self honest and internally clear ... and then,

when one says something...they DO what they say...period !..

If we are truly willing to be accountable and responsible for our decisions, then there is NO excuse why we can not be counted on to keep our word......

If one is not sure that they are able to live up to their own commitments..or are not sure they are able to handle a particular situation...all they have to do is say so...

Considerate communication and respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships whether they are personal or professional...

and THAT simple effort shows self respect...and respect for others...

If we allow others to be unclear and tenuous in their interactions with us, we are just enabling their lack of clarity and decisiveness and actually, fostering unhealthy co-dependency...and ultimately demonstrating disrespect for ourselves...

Why ?

Because we should not tolerate that type of behavior in our world if we want to be treated appropriately and be examples of character excellence and personal brilliance...

Healthy , firm boundaries train other people how to treat us....

and the whole point of boundaries is that they need to KEPT
and consistency IS the key.

 

When we are examples of conscious , considerate behavior, others will treat us accordingly...
and if they dont ...they need to be informed..blessed and sent off to the woods for deeper contemplation ...

And I am NOT kidding about this...

Disrespect breeds mistrust and resentment........

2 very unhealthy conditions...

And i truly believe in kindness and forgiveness... but...

Every now and then...the "Vajra" Blade of truth and clarity needs to cut through the muddiness of ignorance and confusion........

"WOOOOOSH"........

Confusion handled !